Never let others drive your car without car insurance...


Some teenagers need a butt whipping. Take for instance my niece- everyday for about seven months she hustled to work by bus and Metro-train. Sometimes, lugging her two kids both under the age of four to babysitters and then jumping back on the Metro-link to go to work. Some super cold days some of us would pick her up at the Metro but mostly we just let her do what she had to do. In the past, we all have helped her financially, I even purchasing her a car almost 4 years ago. But she allowed her then abusive boyfriend to drive it and burn the transmission up.

Almost four years and two kids later, she still has not grown up. Since the car I bought her she has purchased three, all against our advice. She ended up giving one back because it was in such bad condition, one was repo and still another, broke down less than four months later after paying five thousands for it. Yes we tried to advise, support, and educate her about making responsible choices with cars, boyfriends, etc. Still though, she felt that she had all the answers and ignored us.

Why did this young lady….I almost said something else, buy another car less than 6 weeks ago, (probably the best purchase she’s made because it was a nice car) let her new, unemployed boyfriend drive it while she worked? Well, anyway to make a long story short, several days ago he drove into a pole and totaled the car. Where was he when she was hopping on the bus and train? Where was he when she was lugging two kids in zero below weather hustling to get to work? Now she is carless again. Ms. Smart A----canceled her car insurance five weeks later because it was too high. Every time this girl takes one step up she ends up two steps back. All because she doesn’t listen! We have advised all the teens in our family on numerous occasions; do not let anyone drive your car! She is back on the bus and I suspect boy-friendless too. Will they ever listen?

Help the Teens (But it is so hard)

There are some teenagers you can talk too about staying out of trouble, getting an education and being a positive young man until you are blue in the face, still they will do what they want. It makes no sense to me at all to be so set on ruining your life. Why won't these teenagers listen? Okay several teens I know have had negative experiences in the last seven days.

1. Two were arrested and had to spend the night in jail for driving with no license and car insurance. These two young ladies 19 and 20 knew they were in the wrong. Both had to pay 300 dollars to get out of jail. You should see their mug shots. They are posing on the pictures. I talked to them prior to this happening and so did their parents, yet they still got behind the wheel of cars.

2. Girl who got pregnant 1.6 months ago and had an abortion is now pregnant again. You know the one who said that I didn't understand the girls in the hood. They got pregnant she said. Now she is 6 months pregnant, in college and riding to work on Metro Link. She is being laid off on the 27th and her boyfriend is acting like he didn’t get her pregnant. He doesn’t respond to her needs or requests. We warned her.

3. One 18 year is hanging around a teen who is bad news. I tried to talk to the both of them and offer some type of guidance, to no avail. They simply said no one can tell an 18 year old what to do. I was going over on Saturday to take Hill Harper's book, Letters to a Young Brother because they love to read, but I got a call last night that they were arrested and in jail because they stole more than 200.00 dollars worth of food out of their close friends' house. This friends' mom is pressing charges, mainly she says to help the good student who seems to be a follower and not a leader. Since it was under 300 dollars it is not a felony. I hope being in jail changes the one guy's mind about being a thug because grade wise he is straight A, street wise he is an F.

We have tried to get them into counseling, sports and other activities, colleges, and churches, to no avail. They are not bad, they just want to do what they want.

Pray for our teens they do not believe fat meat is greasy.