Stick Me with a Fork, I’m Done

My niece was arrested this weekend for driving with her license or car insurance. My sister bought her a car contingent on her taking care of these two issues. Unfortunately against my advice she gave her the car first. I told her doing so was a mistake. She was so sure her daughter would handle her business. She has been driving about 2 months or a little more without so much of a thought of getting her license and insurance. I often reminded her that she needed to take care of these important issues. I further told her that if she was stopped and arrested don’t call my number.

This past Saturday she was stopped and arrested for not having insurance and a drivers’ license. She had to go to county jail until someone picked her up. I received a call from her mother and my own mom telling me about it. I immediately thank them for telling me and told them I would not help at all. I finally said bye to both of them. You cannot call me anymore for help when you knowingly break the law. I will not dish out money to irresponsible people who are too lazy to take care of their problems. This gravy train is over. Her siblings, mom and brother got her out. Never me again….

On Monday, February 28th, they went to pick up her car from the tow yard. Her mother had to pay 160 bucks to get the car released, another 168 dollars to get the car from the tow yard and she had to pay almost 200.00 dollars to get insurance as they would not allow it to be moved without it. First they paid 200 dollars to get her out of jail. Now an additional 528 bucks to get the car! Just wasting money! I told her mother to prepare herself to get her out next time because there will be one. You see today, she still did not go to get her license because she was riding around with her girlfriends.

When you keep bailing and rescuing teens, they will never step up. Why should they when they have you? All of my nieces and nephews are over the age of 19. This is old enough to listen and to know better. Forgive me when I say this, I am through bailing out teens who simply don’t care about taking care of their business. Stick me with a fork, cause truth be told, I am done.

If it was your relative what would you have done?

Never let others drive your car without car insurance...


Some teenagers need a butt whipping. Take for instance my niece- everyday for about seven months she hustled to work by bus and Metro-train. Sometimes, lugging her two kids both under the age of four to babysitters and then jumping back on the Metro-link to go to work. Some super cold days some of us would pick her up at the Metro but mostly we just let her do what she had to do. In the past, we all have helped her financially, I even purchasing her a car almost 4 years ago. But she allowed her then abusive boyfriend to drive it and burn the transmission up.

Almost four years and two kids later, she still has not grown up. Since the car I bought her she has purchased three, all against our advice. She ended up giving one back because it was in such bad condition, one was repo and still another, broke down less than four months later after paying five thousands for it. Yes we tried to advise, support, and educate her about making responsible choices with cars, boyfriends, etc. Still though, she felt that she had all the answers and ignored us.

Why did this young lady….I almost said something else, buy another car less than 6 weeks ago, (probably the best purchase she’s made because it was a nice car) let her new, unemployed boyfriend drive it while she worked? Well, anyway to make a long story short, several days ago he drove into a pole and totaled the car. Where was he when she was hopping on the bus and train? Where was he when she was lugging two kids in zero below weather hustling to get to work? Now she is carless again. Ms. Smart A----canceled her car insurance five weeks later because it was too high. Every time this girl takes one step up she ends up two steps back. All because she doesn’t listen! We have advised all the teens in our family on numerous occasions; do not let anyone drive your car! She is back on the bus and I suspect boy-friendless too. Will they ever listen?