Pay it Forward
Everyone who frequently read my blog knows that I love my parents dearly. No matter what they need, I will do what I can to provide. I guess I’m that way because they raised me and you know that adage that says “each one teach one”, well that’s what happened to me while watching my parents help others.
Growing up my parents was considered the couple that made it. Other family members from every state would call for emergency help and my dad or mom always responded. Mind you the emergencies were real and some even saved lives. As a child I watched family members come back to thank my parents for helping them. Some were successful business owners, others had fled areas to get away from drugs or other negative things they found difficult to ignore. But all borrowers always reported back how they had grown and thanked my parents; some even helped others, like the pay it forward concept.
Now that my parents are older, dad being 75 and mom will be 70 in September, their finances are much different. So as the oldest daughter, I will help when they need it. Now, my parents divorced after 33 years but dad has been allowing his woman of 10 years to live with him. She is 70, never worked and supposedly has no income. So dad pays all the bills. The thing is my siblings feel like if they help him they are keeping his woman. I say, dad has a right to be in love and to want companionship and that the woman is not my concern but if dad needs something and she benefits so what! My siblings and even some relatives say that I shouldn’t help him because of her. Is that stupid or am I?
I’m glad that dad has companionship even though she is broke. It won’t stop me from helping him after he gave me a good life…….
Did my siblings forget we grew up privileged and getting everything we wanted and even changing cars regularly in high school and college? Who do they think took care of their little spoiled butts? I am thankful that I lived well under my parents. I am thankful that dad worked hard so that we could have the things we wanted and needed. Dad has never asked me for anything. But I go over and see the bills and check the refrigerator to see that he needs groceries or help with his bills. He does not have to ask me, I just do it because I know he needs help. Plus I want my parents around healthy and stress free as long as possible too.
Would you let your mom or dad struggle because they have a companion that can’t help financially?