My Brother

Periodically this month I will write about some events in my life that to a teenager was traumatic. I will share with you why I love my brothers so much.

When I was in the 10th grade I fell in love with a 12th grader. At that age, I thought it was love but it was a major crush. As I lay in bed crying, my brother who is some years older than I, came into my room to see why I was crying. I told him that Bernard wasn’t noticing me and that I really liked him. He told me to stop crying because I was pretty and that when I was older, Bernard would eventually come around and when he does, you will not want him. As I laid in that bed crying I could not imagine this young man wanting me and me not reciprocating. But as my brother said, he did.

During the summer of my high school graduation, as summer was ending, and I was about to go to college, I went to an end of the summer outdoor gala. Bernard was there looking good as ever. That night I could not lose him. He hounded me all-night and begged for my number. Even though he was fine, handsome and sexy, the thrill was gone.

What I remember most about that night are the words my brother said to me while I lay on the bed crying, “one day he’ll want you and you won’t give him the time of day.” Imagine how my heart smiled that night.

I Love you Chester for taking time to make me feel special and for letting me know that I was still beautiful, even if Bernard didn’t want me when I was almost 16 years-old.

On Making Her Feel She is the Only One

Should a man catered to his wife insecurities by making her feel ever so important? A man should make his wife feel that she is the only one, the love of his life, but if she doesn’t, whose problem is it? I need this information to help someone.

It all about self esteem:

People do things for many reasons but most of the time when you dig deep into their lives you find out that they have self esteem issues. I know that when people don't value themselves they do more to harm themselves. But most of these people do not believe they have low self esteem. If there was a magic potion that would help people love themselves and to stop drugging, gang-banging, killing, raping, lying and just plain harming themselves, I would be the first in line to buy it for the anybody who needed to find love in themselves.

Wouldn't it be a better world.......?

Could you do this?

Could you sit around naked only in paint? They did. They are painted. I like Monique. She is a beautiful person. Monique is on the couch in the middle.

Do you have the confidence to love yourself in spite of your flaws?

I admire Monique. She is an amazing personality. What I like most about her is that she is not ashame of her weight. Most people are. I think she is absolutely beautiful. I believe that when you are confident about yourself, you elude beauty. I like that she takes a stand to support overweight women and doesn't run from the limelight because of her own weight issues.

So confident and positive about herself, she is making other women who have flaws feel good about themselves. What a lady!