Sunday, April 19, 2009
Will We Ever Change?
I am not a racist. Never have been and never will be. Plus I am the product of a bi-racial family having a great, great, grandmother who is white and an Indian great, great grandfather. Plus my big mama (she was a tiny woman, size 2) was Indian and white and I loved her dearly. She was 96 when she died and I was 13. So I had many opportunities to sit with big mama. We called her that because she was my great grandmother. Well, to make a long story short, it is difficult to be racist for me, because I would have to hate me and my family and ya'll know that is not going to happen. I also love all people. But for some....interracial couples are going through much hate trying to love each other.
Take for instance this couple who posed in the newspaper last Thursday in a magazine insert here in St. Louis for an article called 7 Best Places to Smooch, people had a fit seeing these two races kissing on the paper. Things like - I hate to see blacks and white kissing, to I will never buy the paper again.
Now I know that people are getting worse or angrier about interracial dating as the trend grows. Current research shows that 7 percent of married couples are interracial and those numbers are growing as the minority groups in this country continue to grow. But this still does not quell the anger that many black women feel about the black men marrying everybody but them.
One mother of three grown children admitted me to me that both of her successful sons who are doctors married white, uneducated women who stay at home while her daughter married a white man. She even said her husband abandoned the entire family saying that she allowed that stuff to happen because she wanted them to go to the best schools and for that they became too good for their own race in their racist attitudes.
The mom said she felt hurt that her sons would marry white, uneducated women who did not understand their race, furthering making her feel that they were being disrespectful and embarrassed about her and their own grandmothers and aunts because apparently they didn't want to marry women who looked like them. But she she said that she does care about her daughters and son-in law. There is a saying that we marry people who mirror our parents.
Well to make a long story short, in my many discussions about this topic, it is commonly believed that:
* Black men with money such as wealthy sports figure, actors, etc., marry women outside of their race because they do not like themselves and they believe that they are finally somebody with a woman of another race on their arm.
*White women only marry black men with major money. Why don't they marry men with regular jobs? This was asked a lot. Go to a party with sports figures and white women are there in droves trying to get a football player, or other sports' figure. Our newspaper reporter reported this as a major observation. He further stated that the beautiful black women were being totally ignored.
* A black man will knock his mama down to get to a white woman.
*When a black man loses his money, he loses his white woman.
* A black man will marry a white porn star just to be with a white woman. Reggie and Kim Kardashian have been and continue to be torn up on radio shows and everywhere else about this. One radio host even said that if there were porn tapes on a black woman he wouldn't touch her with a ten-foot pole, yet he walks around like he is with Jesus himself smiling like a Cheshire cat because he got Kim. In our community, he is considered worthless even with his 50 million dollars and being so young in his early 20's.
It is commonly believed by many races that the black race is becoming extinct as black women can not keep a race going without a black man to impregnate them and make homes. Though I am not in agreement with this because had it not been for interracial dating in my family I wouldn't be here. However, I do wish that love was colorblind and that everybody would marry for true love. Am I being unrealistic?
The people on the cover are not models they are indeed a couple who are very much in love. Wonder how they felt reading so many hateful comments about them? Most people know that the State of Missouri is super prejudice and is documented as very racist, so I was not surprised about the uproar.