Tuesday, April 17, 2007


Random Thoughts & Plain Ranting


I have a lot of fears but I worry most about my daughter. I mean I am used to her being away from home now but still I worry if she is hanging with the right people. I’ve met three of her friends but she has been seeing this freshmen guy a lot lately. She won’t admit that they are dating but as a parent I know they are. My relatives said he is a good person from a pretty nice family. He plays football and is a math and accounting major. I have spoken to him on the phone. But with all the crazy stuff I worry even though I pray for her daily. I do have faith, but still it’s my only child. I have to have more faith though.

On the other hand I get so angry at her because she is a little me. We gave her a credit card to use for things she may need and even with my constant monitoring she is spending like she is a little rich girl. Dinner at restaurants when we are paying tuition and food bills, buying Rocawear purses and clothing, boots and shoes, and just a bunch of stuff. That little girl is spending nearly 200 hundred a month and that does not include gas, cell phone and upkeep of her SUV, I have created a monster. That means in addition to paying nearly 25,000 in tuition and room and board, oh I just feel like kicking her butt. College is so expensive. I don’t want to know the total cost of these 8 months of college. My husband said I created a little mini me who is out of control. We are making her get a job this summer and we are seriously teaching her money management again. We did it before and she even took a class. I guess she feels free with our money. We keep telling her we are going to cut her card and she just continues, like we never said a word. She knows we won't take everything cause she is so far away. Things are definitely gonna change. When she leaves for sophomore school year she is getting a debit card so that we can control her. We saved for her to go to college but jeez if she had earned a scholarship she could have saved the college funds for starting a business. When I went to college I was broke, on scholarship and eating plenty of Ramen Noodles and Mac and Cheese. I worked hard on my job at Long John Silvers for spending money and earned good grades. If she comes here with less than a 2.5 it is on. If she returns she'll be spending money she earned. I betcha she'll stop that uncontrollable spending using her own money. Yep things are definitely gonna change.


I feel depressed about the 32 college students who were killed. I can not imagine what would happen to me if my child had been on that campus. I can only pray for the family to have peace. This guy had some serious issues. I was called the interviewer in college and now folks nickname me the Entertainment Reporter. I always ask questions about everything. I was an RA in college so we were "trained" to look for suspicious activity. If I had that guy in my dorm building I would have been sending counselors to his room. His roommates said that in a whole year he uttered a couple of words to them. I would have been scared to be in the room with him. One teacher did note he had issues and recommended counseling for him. But they did not track to see if he really went. On hindsight she said she wished she had pushed more.
A young 20 year old lost her life three nights ago because of a person speeding. I am not only inquisitive, I am very suspicious. I report weaving drivers on the highway, speeders, people flagging people to stop standing by broken down cars, etc. I always think that if a person is speeding he could have kidnapped a child, or committed some kind of crime or something. If you are acting a fool in a car on the highway, you better have insurance and license cause if you pass me I’m telling. Why do I tell? Do you know how many folks die because someone was drunk or speeding. I have lost friends in the way of reckless drivers. I don’t want to see innocent people die because someone else was acting stupid. I will not put others lives in danger cause I’m late either. So I certainly don’t want others to put me, my family and others in it either. My daughter always say, mom you are so suspicious until I prove that my actions stopped something from happening.
Russell Simmons called a meeting as I'm told of rappers to talk about changing their music to more positive rap. I heard he invited Snoop and others too. I also heard they will be on Oprah Wednesday, April 18. Russell wants to stop this negative assault on African American women. I guess everybody can change.


Trust me I am not an unlikeable person. I just care about people.

13 comments:

kathi said...

I do trust you. It's obvious you care. I appreciate you and your 'ways', from the way you raise your daughter to the way you're taking the time to possibly save someone some heartache on the roads. I appreciate you.

Shai said...

OK, you are scaring me about sending my daughter off next year to college. She has an SUV? Dating? Whew! I want my daughter to go near me or or father in North Carolina. I am scared to death to send her away from family.

Miz JJ said...

Ahhh...I remember being your daughter's age with a parent paid credit card. My parents said what you said. I had to be more responsible and that I could not spend whatever I wanted. I just kept spending. Sounds terrible, but your daughter probably figures you won't cut her off so why bother being frugal. You say one thing and continue to let her do another. Finally my parents cut me off and I was forced to get a job.

nosthegametoo said...

As far as college spending goes, sometimes it takes time and tough lessons.

TJ said...

Just don't say the word ramen. Yuck. I was on scholarship and still had to rub my pennies together. After that shooting, it does concern me about sending any of my kids to school too far away. I guess I got a little while to think about it.

chele said...

You sound like a very likable person.

I was going to suggest a debit card for your daughter ... for real, she's tripping. When I was in school I ate a lot of ramen and spaghettios. The only restaurant I could afford was McD's. I'm sure it'll work out.

bunny said...

Rose no doubt about it, you certainly are a likeable person and check your mail in a bit.

E said...

Awww...I can't imagine how tough it must be for you looking out for your daughter from afar. Aside from the money spending, you have to keep the faith that you gave her the tools to deal with the obstacles that may come her way.

It sounds like you have a plan at least to rein in her spending. Things will work out.

Stephen Bess said...

I remember be very poor in college. My mother sent me $100 once and I felt like I hit the lottery. :)
Tell your daughter to bring home that big 3.5 G.P.A or better. :)

Dr. Deb said...

I think you would make a wonderful friend! Your care and concern shine through.

Rosemarie said...

You're very likeable let's get that out of the way!

Your daughter, she needs a tough love lesson with the greenbacks. I think making her get the summer job and saving to spend on herself will certainly help matters. No extra from mommy and daddy! She needs to know what it feels like to wait, to be satisfied or forgo the expensive for a cheaper more reasonable version.

Depression, it's so understandable to be worried about your only child. However, as you mentioned, faith will get you through.

"Life will continue as usual and though we will feel unsettled about our safety, and the safety of our children, we do not let fear find a resting place, but through faith, we give rise to hope that God is near and His hands protect.” Rosemarie's Post What Went Wrong?

Tellin' on reckless driving. YEAH!

Russell Simmons and Oprah...kudos for bringing the importance of cleanin' it up to the mainstream.

Jaimie said...

i'm back. come read.

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