Friday, December 08, 2006



First Love

Do you ever get over your first love? When I was sixteen I started dating him. We dated until I was 20 years old. I thought I could never love again when we broke up. In my mind, the sun would never shine that brightly again, but it did. When it was over for me, it was no returning. When I see relationships that have broken up, especially marriages that have spanned over 10 years, I notice or hear from the women that the ex-husband/boyfriend keeps trying to come back. Why is it that men always try to come back even to sample what he lost but when a woman's mind is made up, it is made up? There is no returning to me if you choose to leave in the first place........

13 comments:

chele said...

That's a great question and I wish I knew the answer. I think it's an ego thing ... the man wanting to prove that he can come back and "hit it" one more time.

Sugar said...

Amen to that last part Rose. I don't like all of that back and forth anyway. If they know they can keep doing it...then they do!

Luke Cage said...

Its important to recognize not all guys who broke out try to come back. I know when things will never be any better than this and I go and keep it moving. It's my exes who keep coming back to the fold trying to hit me and make "us" work again. But once I'm over ya, I'm over ya...

Shai said...

The thing is some men are territorial and feel entitled. Like they made their mark and can comeback and claim it.

Brownsoul said...

I believe it's cuz the often leave because they feel there is something out there they're missing. Then they realize that what they had was better than whatever else was out there, but then it's too late.

As far as getting over first loves...that much I wouldn't know, but I guess time will tell.

urban butterfly said...

I'm with you!! There is no reaturning to me if the man chooses to leave. When he leaves he can stay gone!!! Why do men come back? I think its because they want what they used to have because its familiar. At least with his ex, he knows what he's getting himself into- good or bad.

My first love- I never wanted him back!! LOL. He wasn't all that bad of a guy, he was actually decent, but I just knew he wasn't for me. He tried to hint at us getting back together last year, but I ignored him because I wasn't going back down that route with him again.

Brotha Buck said...

For me, it was the other way around. I never resample spoiled water.

crallspace said...

I am over my first love. Her psychotic family is a big factor in that, but even so... I am over her.

sweetness said...

i think women do the back and forth cause we are so emotionally on top of that they may not want the man but to flirt and lead the man on is fulfilling to a women to know the man still wants her. Men do the back and forth cause of their egos and man or a natural of familiarity and they entertain old relationship for comfort. every case can be different.

Hassan said...

I was with my high school sweetheart for damn near 14 years. We broke up in 2000. That was that. No longer hold a flame for the sister.

kathi said...

Geeze, close to home. Hmmmmm, 22 years married, 5 months separated, and I don't even like him riding in the back seat of the car with my son and I to our oldest son's ballgames. I can't figure out for the life of me what I ever saw in him...so yup, you're right on target. Would I ever want him back? Eeeewwwwwww, no.

Jez Chill said...

I think its because, generally speaking, men don't get as emotionally wounded during breakups, and women tend to have a more unforgiving heart.

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