Sunday, November 20, 2005

Thanks for your response!


I appreciate everyone who responded to this post. First I believe that parents are their childs' first teacher, role model and trainer. In today's society our children are becoming parentless due to drugs, society ills such as domestic violence, murder and abandonment. Many of our children are being raised by their grandmothers, the streets, and foster care. With the exception of grand parents, the streets and foster care system teaches our children hard lessons. So our children should have an alternative. Being without a parent and learning those basic life lessons, I think is when kids really start looking to others to find themselves or someone that they would like to be.

Public figures such as basketball and football players, political, religious, and entertainers are human but have accepted the role as a star. They have the right to make mistakes as each of us does. They do not have to respond or adhere to anyone but themselves, their families and God.

However, as a person who works with teens on a regular basis and with those who are so easily influenced, I'm asking us to is to reminisce about the first person we wanted to be like outside of our house. Then I want you to close your eyes and visualize yourself as a small child, without the love of a parent who meets their teacher who is caring and loving, do you see it? What do you think now? Most kids would say I want to be just like my teacher or someone else who impacted their life in a positive way. Do we have to be role models?....No we don't. Should we? I think so. Morally yes because I do belief that we have the responsibility to help raise our children so that they can obtain the American dream or something close to it.

22 comments:

crallspace said...

Growing up, i had a number of role models, but they ALL let me down somehow. I learned very young that people are sh*t.

Nowadays, I try to take people in fractions, when looking up to them, otherwise I am disappointed.

jazeGma2 said...

I thank God for my mother and father. They embraced me with enough love, structure, and guidance to understand that role models are not perfect and they do make mistakes to. The greatest role model of all is the parent or guardian that explains this to their children. It is sad when we see parentless children because we know that they are not getting the basic life lessons. Yes they think they are, but when you have lost time in your life from dysfunctional crises as drugs, domestic violence, murder abandonment and sexual abuse these children tend to find their own role models who are substitutes of what they don't have. The very basic life lessons missed is what they truly need to help them cope and adjust to role model disappointments.

How can a child find his/her self when they don't know what to look for or when they are lost to begin with?

KHALLI 88 said...

I too was fortunate to have the best role models right in front of me, a loving mother & father. However my 6th grade teacher Mr.Smith was a big influence on my life outside the household and one of the reasons that I pursued education as a career. Enjoyed your blog

defiant goddess said...

I absolutely believe in raising the global consciousness. And when we do, we will all behave more responsibly.

Thanks for the discussion, beloved.

brooklyn babe said...

I don't know if we as humans every stop being "impressionable" by people, whether it be a pretty class mate, some one with toy or object of a child's desire, a good athelete, as we grow older we may become fond of teachers, or ppl on TV; and even as adults many are impressed by successful ppl.

My role models in early adolescent years were simple. Anyone taller than me ;-)

Ruben said...

Rose you seem like a really good person that genuinely cares about other people.

bohemVibe said...

Our society values, beliefs, and morals are constantly changing everyday- and most of us are into ourselves. Call it the ends of times, the way life is which doesn't excuse right from wrong or the role we take outside our homes but with our melting pot of diversity I've learned to be my own role model based upon how I want to be treated in returned. If you look to others you expect too much of nothing- parents aren't doing their jobs, schools aren't doing their jobs, the govenment don't care, and even our neighbors are too afraid to make a stand in honor of our future- the kids. Its almost like and fruitless battle of no winners.

ok but if I close my eyes, the only ones I can see are those of the past who really made a difference- the Martin Luther King'd and the Rosa Park's of the civil rights movement or our pre & post slavery era of the underground railroad. We need those kind of role models today... an even our Rose of Lessons Learned such as you and many other's who really care to make a difference but is seldom heard over those in the public domain of celebrity status.

but the only saying goes, nothing is lost if you make a difference in one child's life just by observation.

Dee said...

I agree....It is all of our responsibility!!!!

It takes a village to raise a child!!!

Georgiapeach said...

I see so many young men in my neighborhood walking around twisting there locks (literally walking around with there hands in there heads), standing on the corner trying to sale drugs. It upsets me because all of them want to be drug dealers like it is something great and grand to do. I know it is because of the rap that glorifies selling drugs and what not. Now that I am older, I have started questioning why I listen to music like that.

Dr. Deborah Serani said...

I have had meaningful people help me along the way, and I hope that it can be said I've done the same. Mentoring, teaching or encouraging a young person is such a gift all ways around.

Hope you and yours have a great Thanksgiving.

~Deb

~Deb said...

Role models. The only role model was my oldest sister. Now I see her struggling years later, and it's hard for me to even fathom that.

What is a role model? Do we need one? Is it important?

We all need to learn that each and everyone of us are all "human", with imperfections that make us unique.

We all make mistakes, and we all are forgiven---in "God's eyes"---and in also (my beliefs)...

I think the concept of role models puts an awful lot of pressure on us adults; leaving us to feel like failures sometimes.

Groove said...

My best roll models were my parent. They taught me about morals and values and how to respect and treat others, the most important things in life.

NellaBella said...

It was hard for me growing up. Things not going to well for me, my mom, my dad, and my brother. It seemed like everything was getting bad, and badder. We moved around alot. I really don't have a role model in my life right now. Everyone one is so into themselves not days, that they could care less about anyone else.

But, what I do believe in is, that your perants should be your REAL role model in life. Becuase, honestly.... they teach you more than anything; than anyone else does!

Thats what I think.

Meg said...

I was blessed with an amazing gradmother, she was, is, and will continue to be the presence I desire to live up to.

Shirazi said...

I am the result of what my parents have taught me. Nice post.

ghstwriter said...

My role models have always been the negative vibes, for example those who said "I can't" or "I won't"... I did the opposite of their expectations. Its a shame that some grown folks don't realize the effects of their words and actions has on a child-- sometimes it work for us but most time it works against us. I'm thankful to God as my primary role model to do what is right (and that come from my christian school; unfortunately my values and morals were learned elsewhere than the home.) I wish our country, our communities, our neighborhoods, and even our next neighbors take on the mentality of the african proverbs- it takes a whole village to rise our kids, for the are our future.

Georgiapeach said...

HAPPY THANKSGIVING ROSE

lightfeather said...

What a wonderful post!

Blessings to you,
Lightfeather

Dr. Deborah Serani said...

Wanted to wish you and yours a Happy Thanksgiving.

~Deb

BostonPobble said...

AMEN! And thank you. Hope you had a great holiday.

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