Monday, August 29, 2005
What a beautiful baby girl!
This is my dream baby. She is my great niece. I have a seventeen-year-old niece whom I have spent many, many hours with trying to be a positive role model. I have taught her how to budget, pleaded with her to finish school and explained to her how difficult it would be for a teen mom to raise a child. So you know I taught her about abstaining from sex before marriage. But you know what-I talked until I was blue in the face because she didn't listen. She felled in love and did the do.. This beautiful child is the result of her indiscretion. So you know what-until this child became her reality she didn't truly understand what bringing a young child into her life unprepared meant. Now she is going through the blues-you know-wanting to go out with friends, but having no babysitter, wanting to work, no transportation and no money for child care, wanting to buy in styled cute clothing-can't do-baby needs pampers and milk. She is now a struggling single parent. You guessed it-the boy who is 16 ran like hell. He didn't want to be a father this young-he just wanted some. You know what I mean? But their can't wait to have you attitude brought this beautiful child into the world. Trust me-she is even more beautiful than this picture. So you know what-she is constantly calling, "come get her-I didn't have her by myself-she ain't got no daddy. I can't ever go anywhere. I need pampers and milk. You can have her"...Then she cries-"I want my baby she is not yours",....Oh the pain of a child having a child. You see I live 30 miles away one way. So when she cries out, I convince her to hold out until Friday-then I go and pick up Tamyra and keep her for the whole weekend. I do this because I love this child and I love the one who had her. But my daughter believes that I am giving her a free pass to get pregnant again. I don't think so. I believe that I am teaching a young mother how to call for help so that she will not abuse her child. She is still in school, she loves her baby, and just Saturday she started training for her new job at a restaurant. She is trying. It's just too much for her. Plus she lives with her grandmother who is 68 years old. Even though her sister and brother who are 16 and 15 is trying to help, its' not their problem. So we all pitch in...Because we want the best for this child. She is special. She is good baby-rarely cries. She has watery eyes that runs all the time but the she is on medication to stop that. Through it all she continues to smile. Everyday I learn more about teens-no matter what you expose them to, no matter how hard you explain life to them, until they experience it on their own, they will not hear you, then reality hits and it hurts-but we have to teach them to pick up the pieces and keep going. They must keep learning and educating themselves even when they fail to heed warnings. Nothing beats a failure but not trying to improve and doing it again. Next time I think she will think before she has unprotected sex because not only did she get dumped, she has no support from that side of the family. So hopefully now she believes what we tried to tell her all along.