Thursday, August 25, 2005

I'm Not Rich


My secretary said to me as I walked through the door this morning, "you really hurted me." This perplexed me and I was thinking, what did I do to her? So I asked, "Did I do something to you?" She said, "Yes and I am so hurt." So I asked her to follow me to me office so that we could talk. She then informed me that she was offended when I showed her my new SUV and told her not to say anything. Actually I was sneaking in and out to my SUV because I didn't want to be seen. People don't understand that I work everyday plus have a business and that my husband works also. They assume that I am rich-assume is the keyword in this statement. Why did I not want others to know I was driving something new is this-as an author and business owner-some assume that by purchasing my work they are making me rich. This is not true-most of the authors that I know still have their day jobs or work part time. It is one of "the" occupations that is the most uncertain as far as having "for sure money". Only a few get to quit their job to write full time. Why did I tell my secretary not to say anything? Because I get tired of the insinuations about my life. I pay bills just like everyone else. Have I been blessed? Yes! Am I ashamed of Gods' blessings no I am not. Unfortunately, I have chosen to be quiet-less noticeable. Am I wrong? Probably. This is the part that she said-"I hate that you can't show the advantages of having an education and being successful, how can others know that with hard work you can have nice things if you have to sneak around and be silent?" She further stated, "it makes me wonder when I get older and I complete my education, what do I have to look forward to? She further said, "If I can't be happy and show the fruits of my blessings, why work hard, if I have to sneak around and hide my things?" Now to be truthful, I didn't know what to say. I know this I am not the only one who does this..I know at least ten professionals who sneak under the radar because when people know that they are the owners of thriving businesses they don't get the support. I ask this, what is wrong with us when we won't support our brothers and sisters? When we let go of that crab mentality, you know when one of us crawl out of the bucket, someone grabs our legs and pull us back in, oh the places we can go. Don't people know that the more of us that becomes successful the more we can grow our communities by hiring others. Let go of that crab mentality and let's climb together and make our communities grow. No I am not rich...But I'm rich in blessings, good health and love for my fellowman. Now I have to figure this out....What can I say to my secretary so that she will not be discouraged?

18 comments:

gramyactress@21 said...

well looks like the secretary want to be happy for you but have to be ahppy for in the closet. that like screaming and nothings coming out.

DizYaBoy said...

wow ... that's an interestin' situation. how willing are you to be open with her? meaning ... is she close enough to get to know 'you' outside of work? that might help a lil bit.

peachesncream said...

Hi there! I was just wondering how you changed your colors? And if you dont mind I would like to keep coming back to your blog. Thanks.

jazeGma2 said...

I think you did do just what you needed to do. You explained to her your reasons for wanting to hide your fruits from your hard labor of work. Yes those are your blessings and you should NOT BE ASHAMED OF YOUR BLESSINGS FROM GOD.

Through all walks of our life we will find people who are jealous or feel things come to certain people on a platter. We must all remember you get what you work for. Now what we do with what we get from working hard is up to us.

Some of us know how to plan and budget some of us don't. It is proven that if you budget right and plan right, you will reap from your hard labor. Some people see this in a different way.
I think you should go back and read what you wrote; read what her response was to you. Then thank her for opening your eyes to write exactly what you did.

Your answer is in your writing.

God Blesses the Man That's got His Own and he will bless them too according to his will and their needs.

So be proud my sista of your blessings and your ability to have. Far Some of us are blind to our own ignorance and ability to reach for our own higher success. Some may be jealous and some may accept your success as an inspiration to strive more for themselves.

Rose said...

gramyactress@21
The analogy that you used made me see clearly--like screaming and nothings coming out. Thank you....

Rose said...

dizaboy,
well I want her to continue to strive to achieve those things that she wants. In the office I will continue to be her cheerleader as she reach each of her peronal milestones. I think she is cool with the answer that I gave her. At least today she let me know she appreciated me.

Rose said...

peachesncream,
when you type your new post, hightlight all of it and go to the (t) next to the color box, click and choose your color. The (t) is next to the italicize letter (i). Then review to see if you like the color. Hope that helps. You are welcome to come back anytime. Thanks for visiting.

Rose said...

jazegma2,
you are very good at counseling I gathered. you have probably experienced the same things. Our lives takes us places that we couldn't imagine as children. Things happens for each of us but we should not begrudge our brothers and sisters. To do so only takes away that persons' blessings. If you read my posts in the last week, I talk about purses. I have grown tremendously in the last five years and I know material things mean nothing other than to make you feel accomplished and comfortable. I thank HIM for my health. I lost 2 brothers at the ages of 40 and 43, 5 uncles under the age of 55,1 at 68, and 2 aunts, all of cancer all in the past ten years. So material things are great they don't make me. I like to impress people with my words because I want to teach and leave something to help people and for people to enjoy reading. Cars, trucks, and all that gets old or breakdown, as do our bodies. But thank you because as you made me think about who I am and my family you made me realize some important things about myself. Now do me a favor I read your blog about your hearts desire, please take one step next week during something toward achieving that goal. Thanks for always visiting me and giving me your wisdom.

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Brea said...

Tough, tough tough!! I think the fact that you are concerned about her feelings and evaluating the situation so carefully - shows that you are well on your way to figuring out the best way to handle it. Let us know how it goes!

Rose said...

Thank you all for your reponses. I'll let you know in an updated blog what is going on with this situation.

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