What would you do if you found out that your husband or wife was snooping through your things, even checking your cell phone bill? First thing I would do is ask them who they are having an affair with since they are checking up on me. I just think it is suspicious for someone to suddenly start distrusting you. To me, that’s about the person who is doing the espionage work. This is the person who is up to no good.
What’s your take on this subject?
What’s your take on this subject?
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I think I'd have to ask them why they were doing it. Ask them right out in a calm way. I don't think I could know that sort of thing and keep it to myself. Not for long, I could't.
I agree that if it's not behavior they've displayed before that for them to suddenly start is suspicious. I would probably start the conversation with "Is there something you want to ask me or something you need to TELL me?"
Also (again depending on the couple and their history) folk can become paranoid by letting their friends get to them trying to make them suspicious of their significant other. My husband tells me about all the gossip among the men who work the 3rd shift with him speculating who's wife might be cheating since her man is not at home at night. Truthfully most of them are paranoid it could be them.
It's suspicious.
I would ask them why they felt suddenly suspicious. I've been a snooper and it was always because of a gut feeling ... which unfortunately turned out to be right.
Yesterday's message at church was "Overcoming Jealousy". Generally speaking humans tend to project our own anxieties onto others, our own guilt, our own insecurities. It could be that the snooper is guilty of the crime...it could be the snooper's lack of emotional security/stability is getting the best of them. I agree with the others that a direct question about the new behavior is in order. It's always wiser to respond to a situation than to react!
Grace & Peace!
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