Tuesday, January 10, 2006


Could they be in love for real?


Do you believe that a 32 year old unemployed man could love a 68 year old retired woman? What if this woman only has enough income to take care of herself and her adopted children.

Does love have anything to do with income, age or race?

16 comments:

chele said...

I have never believed that love is some mystical, magical, phenomenon that we fall into by accident. We choose our lovers. We decide who we want to love. I think that income, age and race are a few of the contributing factors that help us make our decision. I've loved many and I can't really say that there was any one common denominator that linked them.

Drea Inspired said...

honestly, "unemployed" is the red flag for me!

I watched an episode of "Girlfriends" last night where Joan when out with this 72 year old man...now, I was proud that she was able to put aside their age difference because she really liked him. But I don't think I could do the same. I don't even like to date guys my age...always 1-9 years older.

I'm not always convinced that people have colorblind, age ain't nothin' but a number, money ain't everything love!

BostonPobble said...

I think if the age was the only factor, I'd say it might be real. Perhaps unconventional, still real. Like most everybody else here though, "unemployed" is a big red flag for me. Regardless of how much or how little money she has. Let him get a job and stability THEN see if he still loves her.

Anonymous said...

The unemployed thing makes me wonder, However People have been telling me for years that age is a thing of "mind and matter" If you don't "mind" It don't "matter"

...I did say people have been telling ME that right?

I do believe that age makes a difference in relationships, there are things you go through with younger men that you don't with older men and vice versa. Age isn't really the factor, Maturity is!!!

And when it comes to "Love" you have no control over who you fall in love with, You can control what you will and won't do, but you can't control what you feel.

JMO--

Superstar Nic said...

I don’t believe that love has anything to do with age, race, or grace. Most often these things don’t come into play when I think about love. Thinking about the man that I love, it does not matter how old he is or how much money he makes. I make more money than he does because our chosen professions, but it does not matter to us.

I agree with ‘Groove’, when it comes to love you cannot control who you fall for. Over the years with our ups and downs, if I had my choice, I would have chosen not to love him. But I didn’t have a choice and I continued to love him through those bad times and now things are good again. The point of the matter is, the love did not diminish just cause things were once bad.

Good question!

Stacy-Deanne said...

Like Brownsoul said, it's the unemployed that gets me, Rose. Shoot if a woman can work than a man can work too! And I would have to wonder. Is he with her because she has all the money and is supporting him? If that is the case then he could probably be with a 100-year-old if it meant he didn't have to get his lazy behind up to find a job. I don't go for that. If women can work a man can too. You can find a job if you try. It's just that some men won't take certain jobs because their heads are too big. If you have a family to support you need to get out there and take a job no matter how " embarrassing " you may think it is. I have respect for garbage men, janitors, city workers even though others make fun of them. At least they are working and trying. It's better to do that than to use that lame excuse that you can't find a job. And a lot of men feel the same way. It works both ways. No one should have to support some freeloader looking for handouts. So why would the 68 year-old woman want him anyway when she could do much better? Most times when it's a younger person with someone so much older they are there for one thing...money. Sometimes it's different but most times it's not.

Meadow said...

I believe it is possible.

Highly unlikely. But possible.

Anonymous said...

Love is an emotion - One which can be affected by income, age, or race. Therfore, the only logical conclusion for me is that regardless of which factor, the key to overcome them is to openly communicate all concerns with your partner because sex only accounts for 10% of any relationship.

E said...

Wow...I don't know what to say about that. Love is strange so it could be possible. But being unemployed would probably raise a flag with me.

Shawn said...

why does reading this question make me speechless?

maybe we place too much emphasis on money, age and race but I personally don't see how it's possible for a 32 yr old guy to fall madly in love with a 68 yr old woman. If he is in love, what are the chances he stays in love? or faithful and doesn't go creeping looking for someone a bit more age appropriate? I don't know...I can't get my mind around this one.

Dr. Deb said...

Love transcends the boundaries of all things.

Fresh said...

Love is love. I just hope there are no ulterior motives involved. Keep her in your prayers.

S A J Shirazi said...

Love has nothing to do with anything whatso ever other that souls of the parties. In this part of the world, I have love stories of king and a servant, and I have heard of kings leaving throne for love in your part of the world too.

Some commenters are mixing love with convinience here, may be.

crallspace said...

I believe that's entirely possible. Only the shallow love people for their posessions.

Clay said...

i believe that would be a lot to work thru, but if they are willing to do the work then so be it ... oh and i'm back!

Anonymous said...

love is a weird thing.... and i don't think it has nothing to do with age or race... money?? well, maybe not a bum... even tho someone has a lotta $$, but he has no ambition, then what's the point? just eat up the bank interest? :)